Last week I had an evening for women in my community to get some inspiration before Rosh Hashanah.
I had two very talented and creative ladies - Seon from Event Interiors and Ilana Shone, give us some ideas of Rosh Hashanah decor for our Yom Tov tables (photos below) and we had an inspiring speaker from Johannesburg - Spiritual mentor Aidel Kazilsky (host of 'Soul to Soul' on ChaiFM) - who came down to speak about 'Does to forgive mean to forget?'
I'd like to share with you some points from her talk which was relevant for every person no matter their affiliation to Judaism.
Obviously this is a major topic but I thought it was worth sharing the general teaching that can be applied to so many areas of life.
The way she approached it was through seeing anger as one of the causes for holding a grudge, resentment etc and that if we could control our emotions by having a mindful, spiritual perspective to life then we won't need to forgive as we won't become upset to begin with.
The Talmud says that a person who gets angry is like a person who worships idols. What is the connection between the two? Because a person who gets angry is not acknowledging that G-d runs the world and that G-d is controlling everything that happens to us - which in a certain sense is like idolatry which denies the oneness of G-d.
Another interesting point was the reflection that when something annoys us or makes our blood boil it may just be a red flag that G-d is waving in our direction; making us aware of an area in our life that we need to work on.
Some of the tips discussed for dealing with anger :
1. Pause - and think about the fact that G-d is controlling everything.
2. If you are not able to calm down, then remove yourself for a few minutes until your blood pressure has gone down.
3. Get it off your chest by talking to a neutral person about what it is that is making you angry and try to work out the situation.
The Torah records two occasions where even Moses himself got angry. We are all human and that means we will make mistakes, and that is ok, but we still need to constantly work on ourselves to be in control of our emotions.
This idea that there is a bigger picture and that we are not always in control of everything is something that I hope to work on myself in the New Year.
I want to wish all of you a healthy, happy, meaningful, mindful New Year and Please G- d we should always be able to see revealed good and be able to be in control of our emotions.
Thank you for your support and for your feedback and I look forward to another year of blogging :)